You Don’t Have to Crush Your Ex






Drop the Battle. Win the War that Matters.
Vanessa and Luke met in college. Young and ambitious, they fell in love, married, bought a house in the suburbs, and created a perfect family. Now, they are facing a very painful divorce and a custody battle over two children both parents adore.
Family members, friends, and legal professionals—everyone has an opinion about how to come out on top.
Through this insightful and witty choose-your-own-outcome-style story, Lori Bonnevier—a clinical social worker and seasoned child custody evaluator—shares her more than twenty years of trade secrets to help you navigate the complex and often-thorny experience of participating in family law litigation.


Lori Bonnevier




I am a licensed clinical social worker in the State of Oregon. I graduated from Portland State University in 2000 with a master’s degree in social work and hold undergraduate degrees in the disciplines of psychology and human services and an associate’s degree in child development.
Since 2002, I have practiced primarily as a child custody and parenting time evaluator and regularly provide testimony in the circuit courts as an expert witness. As an evaluator, my mission is to provide a competent, thorough, and unbiased assessment of all family members with the goal of developing a comprehensive plan that allows children the opportunity to maintain safe, healthy, and ongoing relationships with both parents and other significant people following a change in the family system. I have additionally served as a child and family therapist, mediator, parent coordinator, and recently added best interest consultant and coach to my repertoire.


Having expanded my practice to include consulting, coaching, and speaking, I am now able to share my message of Child-Focused Choices with a larger audience.
I live in Portland, Oregon. My co-parent is a lieutenant firefighter and paramedic. We share a love for music, nature, humor, sports, cooking delicious food, the divine spirit, our two dogs and two fabulous children, Cooper and Finley. Our children are conscientious students and good friends to all, have both earned their black-belts in mixed martial arts, are accomplished athletes in basketball and softball, and play the guitar and piano. They are two of the best humans I know and my grandest pride and joy.



